Part II

After my initial post about, I was pleased to read through comments and see that many people were discovering the same issues with the website that I had noticed – young people asking (what I consider) obscene questions and leaving hateful comments. I was particularly pleased to notice that a couple of young people commented on this, as well, providing some insight into why they used and continue to use

As comments piled up, however, I noticed that I had several pending comments, most from the same individual: “13yoformsprinmyspacefacebookuser:)”. And after reading several of the comments, I found myself debating whether to approve them or not, as several comments were both hyper-critical and inappropriate. After some debate, I thought I’d share parts of this person’s comments, along with a couple of others I am not willing to approve in full. Assuming that this individual is, in fact, 13, it may provide some insight into the mindset. These are in chronological order (earliest to most recent) and only inappropriate language has been removed:

hey, i’m a worried mother and i feel formspring is a dangerouse thing. what are u ******* talking about formspring is the best website and i highly recomend it, and cyberbullying this can only be a law in America. such stupid people.” (commenter: A worried mother)

why would you parents look at your children’s formspring pages? do you know how much trust will be gone when your kids find out? im 13 years old and i found out about my dad and step mom looking at my myspace and i was really mad and annoyed at them and it made me trust them even less. so you should respect your kid’s privacy you dont know how many kids younger than that are “cussing” or using “profanity”…we’re in the NEW GENERATION people! and you cant stop them from doing that so dont try! its just not possible and of course they know about that stuff because of people around them.”

i agree with you..parents just dont get that TEENS WILL BE TEENS and were used to this stuff and we dont really care.”

i just asked u a question. SPAMMER

ask me anything:******** :D” (address removed by author)

and to us teens its actually funny getting mean comments! gives you a chance to be mean back >:)”

“can i ask why you people are going through your childrens computer history… hmmmm” (commenter: Bailey)

There are many things I could say about these comments, but two things stood out to me (apart from the horrendous spelling, grammar, and punctuation that still haunts me in my dreams). The first was the mindset of these commenters: that anyone who disagreed with them is, as one comment put it, “stupid.” Whether on the concept of cyberbullying, profanity, internet privacy, or simply just the ethics of treating people with respect, these comments seem to dismiss anyone who might have other opinions, regardless of how logical or sensible the arguments are. This is pretty evident in the “teens will be teens, so don’t bother trying to change us” argument. Apparently good parenting means letting children do anything they want.

Perhaps what has lingered with me the most, however, is the second-to-last comment: that this site “gives you a chance to be mean back.” Perhaps I’m just naive, but I cannot help but look at the great innovators and leaders in world history, and I can’t think of any who followed this kind of philosophy. I can however, hearken back to Mahatma Gandhi’s famous observation (later borrowed by the great Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.): “An eye for an eye for an eye for an eye … ends in making everybody blind.”

In any case, I am pleased to see that has finally started to reach mainstream media. Webware, the CNET technology blog, did a good piece on Formspring, centered around the suicide of a 17-year old girl in New York. Of note is that Webware actually posted interview questions on people’s Formspring pages and quoted their answers in the article. I also appreciated their closing point: “What these teens and many other don’t know is that all questions and answers are indexed. A job candidate that uses Formspring has made his or her reputation, opinions, background, and other information available publicly to employers willing Google them.”


4 responses to “ Part II

  • A Stupid Anon

    I think suicidal or depressed, troubled, center of insults-kinda teens shouldn’t even get a formspring to begin with. If they know people hate them, why confirm it? Of course, I too have a formspring, nobody really asks me anything though…but I guess that makes me lucky in a way? Not really, but I do ask other people questions, making my self anonymous (depending on what I ask) to make them smile, unless I don’t adore them, then I post funny insults, not to push them off the edge, but to make them smile and whatever it is they do, when they get nasty comments, hissy fit? 😀 I’m just trying to say, I meant no harm at all. I guess that’s just the type of person I am huh? Formspring’s okay, but completely pointless. Oh, and I’m in mIddle school if you’re wondering?

  • me

    Formspring can be a nice secret admirer type site where you can send nice uplifting comments to people to make them feel better. It can also be a terrible, nasty, confidence smashing site which can lead to disasterous events such as suicide. although i have to agree with some people i am in middle school, i have a Formspring and the type of people to be on Formspring are people who find insults and stupid cusses hilarious. 🙂

  • Alisha

    I’m fourteen & have a page. It’s a rare occasion on which I get supposedly hateful comments and they make me laugh, if and when I get them.

  • Samantha

    I’m 14, a bunch of my friends use formspring (including me). I didn’t really have a problem with it until one of my really good friends got so bullied on there she tried to commit suicide. She had to be sent to a special hospital so she could be on suicide watch. My mind had changed dramatically about and I think parents should have control of it. If their kid is in danger because of a website, they should know about it .

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